Manipulation of the mind: versatile actor who co-stars on TV drama Heartland focuses on overcoming negative images

Brothers of mine--and of minds alike--let me bend your ear for a quick moment with some thoughts that have been swimming inside my head. We've been through a score of events that have shaped our existence into something of an embarrassment. But some ideas have come to me that might free us up.

The entrapment idea of "pimp," a co-dependent action to directly, and purposefully manipulate for negative gain, has put us into such a meager state of being that it has caused us to become outdated. This career of "pimp" has collapsed our structure of family and made our image of man an absolute reflection of a dysfunctional jester. This overrated concept of "pimp" has backhanded us into a desperate state. How? By the manipulation of minds by the backwards hustle of desperation, by the co-dependent self that we allowed to exist through our insecurities.

"Pimp," in my mind, has left our family in a dysfunctional, uncommunicative culture with severe relationship problems. "Pimp" has contaminated our thoughts and blocked us from having healthy relationships with our mothers, daughters, sisters and wives. Further, "pimping" has encouraged us to have power struggles and unbalanced, intimate relations with women, and ourselves. So, as I sit here with you, flawed, and like you, in search of my microscopic truth so that we may have abundant happiness in life, some ideas that I have learned through my years on this earth are starting to come together that might help us as men to heal those things that have scared us--so that we may enjoy the true unconditional love that has been calloused by our false, out-of-style ideals.

I believe that if we can redefine masculinity through sensitivity, then we can all have an unconditional, committed love addiction with not only ourselves, but also with everyone around us. Let's begin with changing our models of intimacy, such as "pimp." Let's try to replace it with "balanced power." Having balanced power in our lives allows true intimacy to live--and we all want true intimacy, without boundaries. Through my experiences I have found that when control is balanced, a healthy committed relationship is allowed to unfold beautifully. When the power of life is shared, trust is born and intimacy is granted access. Just by reprogramming this old model, freedom is insured, and we all want to be free to live and love out loud.

As we take time in our lives to search out and reprogram outdated, unhealthy models that block our opportunities for intimacy, an evolution occurs that saves us from self-destruction and non-intimate relationships. Let's make it our business to search and destroy those old, programmed, co-dependent ideas that set us up for failure, and then replace them with more positive and committed ones.

Don't wait, Brothers!! I promise that this one correction in our lives can heal years of hurt and pain. It will remove the callous that has hardened your heart. You deserve the best that life can offer. This is just one simple way to get the ball rolling in the right direction. Make your life a committed one, allowing true intimacy in through balance, and everything will unfold beautifully. Know that there is another Brother who is on the same path, and together we can make a world of difference through committed choices.

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